Couples and Marriage Therapy
“Being the 'best you can be' is really only possible when you are deeply connected to another. Splendid isolation is for planets, not people." Dr. Sue Johnson
You may be thinking...this is not what I signed up for in this relationship! You just want to feel close, but when you try to reach out you are left feeling discouraged, hurt, and alone. Or maybe you keep trying to show your person how hard you are trying, only to hear again how you got it wrong.
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We all a desire close relationship where we can feel calm, safe, and connected. But, no matter how good things were at the start, most relationships experience periods where connection and safety become difficult. If these patterns continue without repair, the relationship becomes more and more stuck in cycles of disconnection and conflict. Additionally, many of us have past relationship experiences that left us feeling hurt, alone, or afraid. Out of these experiences we can naturally learn ways to protect ourselves to avoid experiencing more pain. However, this often translates to living more guarded and protected in the relationships that matter most.
Relational Areas I Can Help
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Communication Struggles
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Building a Deeper Emotional Connection
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Difficulties with Sexual Intimacy
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Healing and Rebuilding Trust from Injuries (e.g. Infidelity/Affairs)
How I Can Help You
Through Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT), I help couples slow down repeating conflict cycles that block connection. This includes helping couples navigate around protective actions (such as defensiveness/blaming/withdrawing), which opens the door to helping individuals start to connect with the person they care so much about.
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is an empirically proven method to deepen relationship bonds, improve communication, and ultimately build greater trust and intimacy. EFT is based in adult attachment science, which views everyone as having a built in desire for deep closeness with others. EFT offers an effective roadmap to help couples navigate through various difficulties including recurring conflict patterns and healing significant relational wounds such as infidelity.